Social media. Dating apps. Texting. Sliding into the DM. Is anyone getting asked out proper anymore? I am (fairly) low maintenance and this is not about expensive dinners and lavish gifts. In our culture of convenience dating, if you want to stand out , it will take minimal effort. I know I am not alone feeling this way, so I’m going to give a few quick tips to help us all out.
1) Hand Gestures: I am all about technology to promote my business and stay top of mind with an occasional flirt, but we all need to remember that the device practically attached to our hands can actually make calls. If we just met, how do I know that I want to sacrifice an hour of my life that I will never get back if we have never spoken? When most guys are just blowing up my texts and DM’s , it is the one who makes the nice gesture and calls who gets my attention. No pressure to have an extensive conversation as I know we are all way too busy for that, but calling to say hi is such a rare occurrence, it will get you upgraded to weekend plans status.
2) Face Facts: Face Timing is tricky. While I think it is a “do” after I have been out with someone, and especially important if it is a long distance situation, it can easily be a “don’t”. I will never understand the random FaceTime attempt if I am not dating a guy regularly, nor will I ever pick it up. It is intrusive and, keeping it 100, I may not want you to see me after I just got home from leg day at the gym.
3) WYD: While I appreciate the interest in my current activity, are actual words too much to ask ? I am an intelligent woman. I can read. So feel free to spell it out otherwise prepare for an eye roll emoji as my reply.
4)Pic Requests: If I wanted to send them to you, I would have. So if you have to ask, the answer is no. You will just have to wait until we are together to find out just how perfect they really are.
5)Match my Hustle: There is nothing sexier than a guy who is doing what he loves and making s**t happen. It is also more likely he will understand the demand of what I am doing as well. I will still let him take the lead and be the man..in fact, I will welcome a break from decision making like where and when to meet. Also, I love it when a guy is a gentleman and offers to pick me up. That says a lot about respect level and good intentions. It’s not a deal breaker if I have to Uber myself, but the time in the car is a great opportunity to see if we like the same music. So important!!!
Ok so what are your thoughts on these things? Ladies, do you agree? What would you add to this list? Guys, show of hands, who of you are out there are making these efforts? I can assure you, they will be much appreciated and also rewarded. But guys, if you are and are not getting these efforts reciprocated, you should keep trying until you find someone who does. xo
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