Hello Glam & Sassy loves. I came across an interesting quote online that said “When things aren’t adding up, it’s time to start subtracting”. I have been giving this a lot of thought lately. As it turns out, I have subtracted a few things from my life, and a few things have been subtracted from my life. That may sound like the same thing, but I assure you , it is not. The act of doing the subtracting holds much more power and control than having something taken away.
If you read my last blog, and thank you to the many amazing friends and followers who did , then you know I recently had to say goodbye to my dog. Yes I am still writing about her and no I am not over that yet. Just as there is an equation that it takes half the time you were with someone to get over them in a breakup, I am pretty sure the same holds true for pets… and probably even longer because their love is so pure. Since my dog was almost seventeen, which in human years is over 100, I will no longer be alive by the time I no longer miss her. Simple math.
On the other hand, choosing to subtract something is liberating and puts you in control of purging the unnecessary chaos in life. It has been helpful to eliminate anything that no longer serves me or my goals. However, first I needed to define what my goals are so I can determine what is contributing versus taking away from them. I am going through an awesome challenge called “Life on Fire” . I took a step believing in the power of visualization and made my first vision board. I felt silly at first as I flipped through a stack of fashion and lifestyle magazines , but couldn’t help but notice the congruency of the words and images that resonated with me and how they all fit together into my big picture. It is now clear when I am engaging in something (or someone) that doesn’t fit into one of those buckets and bid it farewell with confidence. The attention that these things require become an energy suck and I don’t know about you, but I do not have any extra energy to be donating. I now reserve my positivity and loving spirit for family, friends, clients, peers, the stranger on the street who returns my smile… anyone who reciprocates and appreciates.
In my personal life, I was scuba diving in the dating pool. It was fun but now it doesn’t fit my vision of who I am and who I want to share myself with. I was married young so I was reliving lost years but at what risk? The risk of losing more valuable time? The math is simple. When I decided to be done with all that, it opened up my heart and mind for the right guy when he comes. In my professional life, I am at a crossroads which I did not see coming and had no control over, but instead of freaking out (which I ABSOLUTELY did at first) , I see it as an exciting opportunity to set new goals and crush them. I have done this before. Twice. I just had to remind myself of that.
In summation, one disenchanted relationship + one painful goodbye to my pup+one lost business opportunity = zero tolerance for wasted energy. Math was never my forte. Until now.
Do you have a vision board? I’d love to hear how you are achieving your goals. Let’s connect on Instagram @glamandsassy